I have three children and none of them had tuition. That’s because I was their tutor for every subject (except Chinese, of course). Having been there and done that, I am now telling you – don’t do it. Your child does not need another teacher, she needs you to be her father.
The most important lesson I have learned from helping my children with school work is this: that your child already has many teachers. And when she comes home, she hopes that you will not just be another teacher to her but a parent who loves her. Instead of being a strict parent who is constantly looking over their shoulders, be a cheerleader to your children – someone who believes in them so that they can believe in themselves.
It may surprise you to learn that children are a little likely to do less well as parents become more involved in homework. The way some parents help may actually undermine children’s own development of skills. If you want to support your child’s performance at school, consider prioritising learning-based family activities such as trips to museums, libraries and events, and reading books together. Getting involved at your child’s school such as attending parent-teacher meetings, open houses, school plays, volunteering, and communicating with your child’s teachers, all contribute to your child’s positive educational development.
So remember: Don’t try to be your child’s teacher. Be your child’s cheerleader instead.
By Parcsen Loke, Family Life Coach, Centre for Fathering