Category: Emotion coaching

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Emotion Coaching: Set Limits While Problem Solving

The fifth and final step of the Emotional Coaching system is to set limits while helping your child to problem-solve.  Let’s say that your child has a tendency to hit others or things when he is upset. As his dad, you can communicate to your child that hitting is not acceptable behaviour. Use simple and

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Emotion Coaching: Listen and Validate Your Child’s Emotions

Most parents are at peace when their children are happy but struggle when they see their children feeling sad, angry, or scared. There is no real need for concern because it is natural for children to experience a full range of emotions. In fact, I would say its a good thing they are able to

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Emotion Coaching: Take Note Of Your Child’s Emotions

Let’s talk about two things that will help you become an emotion coach. The first thing an emotion coach does is to notice the child’s emotions. Before a volcano erupts, there are usually indications that precedes the actual blow-out. In the same way, you can try to notice signs of emotion before your child’s feelings

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Be Your Child’s Emotion Coach

Daniel Goleman, who wrote the book on Emotional Intelligence, told us that to succeed in life, having a high emotional intelligence, or EQ, is as important as having a high IQ. If that is true, what can fathers do to help their children increase their EQ? In his book “Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child,” Dr

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Balance Facts with Feelings

Here’s a conversation between a father and her daughter. Father: Didn’t you have a test recently? Daughter: Yes, I did. Father: How did you do in the test? Daughter: I scored 65 out of 100. If you were the father, what would you say next?  I have observed that most of the conversations with our

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Ask Questions That Help Your Children Feel

Emotional intelligence (or EQ) is recognised as one of the keys to success – more important than IQ, many say. As a result, books and workshops on this subject have been selling like hot cakes. But, developing emotional intelligence is not rocket science, really. We were all born with it. The problem is that it

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Fathering Emotionally

Father: “All I ever want is for my teen to be happy. Why is it so difficult?”  Teen: “I want to quit school coz I am not interested in it?” Father:  “No. You must go to school coz you will then get good grades and have a good job and be happy.” Teen: “No I

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