Parenting Together: How Dads and Mums Can Bring Out the Best in Each Other

Kaya toast with soft-boiled eggs. Laksa with otah. Chilli crab with mantou. These combinations are good on their own, but magical together. Marriage and parenting work the same way. It is all about bringing out the best in each other.

Fathers and mothers are the ultimate tag team. Each of us brings unique strengths into the parenting game, supporting and balancing one another as we raise our children together. Parenthood is not just about nurturing our children; it is also about discovering new things about ourselves and our spouses as we grow into the roles of dad and mum.

Without a doubt, parenting exposes our differences. Maybe it is in the way we show affection, handle emotions, deal with stressful situations, discipline, or even how we play and read bedtime stories. Our differences are not weaknesses. They add depth to our marriage and enrich our children’s lives.

Take playtime, for example. One parent may be more cautious, while the other is all in for risky play such as climbing tall structures or balancing on beams. These contrasting approaches teach children confidence and help them understand safety. When we begin to appreciate our valuable differences, we make space for each other to step in and be positive influences in our children’s lives.

Dads, when you step in, it is not just about teamwork; it is a game-changer for mums. Whether we are climbing the career ladder, diving into a passion, or simply needing some “me-time,” a supportive dad who shares parenting and household tasks gives her the freedom to thrive.

This partnership also sends a strong message to our sons and daughters: that both parents are equally invested, capable, and adaptable. By showing mutual respect and sharing responsibilities, dads set a powerful example for their sons and daughters. We are empowering the next generation of men and women to pursue their ambitions and support each other along the way.

This article is written by Alvina Chin, Centre for Fathering. Feel free to contact us at engage@fathers.com.sg if you have questions about DADs for Life and MUMs for Life workshops, events, and initiatives.

Food for Thought:
In what ways can you and your spouse better support each other’s strengths in parenting? How can you create more opportunities to be a true tag team at home?