Sacrifices, Emotional Moments, and Family Drama: 3 Dads reflect on their biggest lessons
https://www.hcamag.com/asia/specialisation/leadership/ceo-reveals-struggle-with-work-life-harmony/258299

Dads get more involved in parenting but still battle dad guilt, workplace bias

Hands-on fathering benefits not just children but also the whole family, says Mr Bryan Tan, chief executive for the Centre for Fathering (CFF), a charity that seeks to empower fathers. He also heads national movements Dads for Life and Mums for Life. Children with involved dads tend to be more socially and emotionally secure, do better in school and learn that parenting and raising kids is not just “women’s work”, he says. Couples who share responsibilities also have stronger marriages.

CFF chief Bryan Tan says “subtle workplace prejudice” makes it difficult for fathers who are seen to “take too much time off” to care for their children or elderly parents. This adds to their “mental load” in having to provide for the family yet wanting to be there for their children. Mr Bryan Tan hopes to see agencies such as CFF reinforced with resources to help men become active fathers and to set up more fathering groups in schools, of which there are more than 120 currently. “Every man and father in Singapore needs to know that on this journey of manhood and fatherhood, he will never walk alone,” he adds.

Parents today also face “new stressors and expectations”, such as being constantly tethered to devices while their children demand their attention, says Mr Tan Chuan-Jin, patron of CFF, Dads for Life and Mums for Life. He has two children aged 19 and 23. “They can tell when we are distracted even while we may be physically with them,” he says. “We compensate by sending them for classes, enrichment programmes, buying them toys… but what they want most is for us to be there with them, to love them and for them to feel assured and confident of who they are and where they stand. It gives them confidence and assurance, and there is less likelihood of them having to seek other things to fill up that void,” says Mr Tan, who is also Speaker of Parliament and an MP for Marine Parade GRC.
https://www.straitstimes.com/life/dads-get-more-involved-in-parenting-but-still-battle-dad-guilt-workplace-bias

Bapa Sepanjang Hayat (BSH) volunteer Malek Hamid and Appa Valnaal Uravu (AVU) volunteer Alwin Suresh Paulraj talk about their fathering journeys.

Bryan Tan discusses Celebrating Fathers and the roles of Dads and Adriana Lim represents MUMs for Life to discuss how wives can support and appreciate Dads as they juggle multiple roles.

DADs for Life for the Malay Muslim community encourages active involvement in raising a child.

Better outcomes for families when dads take paternity leave: Study
Fathering experts said it was important for men to be involved in the initial weeks in caring for their wives and newborn infants. Calling birth a rite of passage for men as well as women, Mr Bryan Tan, chief executive of the non-profit Centre For Fathering, noted: “Having dads involved from the very beginning… not only presents good benefits for mums and kids, dads will also feel greater satisfaction towards their role as a father and a husband. They grow into their roles as dads.”
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/better-outcomes-for-families-when-dads-take-paternity-leave-study

Dad, you’re the best – Open Communication key in son sharing about being bullied
Interview with CFF Volunteer Ganesan Maniam
https://www.straitstimes.com/singapore/open-communication-key-in-son-sharing-about-being-bullied