Fathering Decisions For The New Year

Strong families are intentional. They do not happen by chance. Beginning of the year is a great time to make certain fathering decisions that will help you build healthy families. Decide today that your career is only as good as your family. Family is like a base camp for mountain climbers. If you want to climb mountains, you must have a good … Read More

Family Types

By Philip Chang, Centre for Fathering Although every family is unique, there are significant similarities between all families, there are three characteristic types or patterns that are observable: Autocratic, Permissive and Nurturing family types. The Autocratic Family This is where one or both parents rule the family with absolute authority. Here the parenting style is rigid, domineering allowing very little … Read More

Family Rules (2/2)

By Wong Suen Kwong, Centre for Fathering Rules make it possible for us to live in communities without getting in each other’s way or violating each other’s rights and boundaries. Here we examine the last two categories of family patterns with their respective polarities: See Part 1. See Part 1. Flexible rules are pliable and adaptable to meet the demands … Read More

Family Rules (1/2)

By Wong Suen Kwong, Centre for Fathering Human beings are rule makers and rule followers. Rules make it possible for us to live in communities without getting in each other’s way or violating each other’s rights and boundaries. A family rule refers to any behaviour pattern that is indigenous to a family system or relationship. For example, if Mom and … Read More

Just Time

By Philip Siow, Centre for Fathering Anthony Yeo, the late “Father” of family counseling in Singapore, once deposited a timeless nugget of wisdom in my life some eon back.  He said kids don’t really understand “quality” time. Just time. How wise! We delude ourselves into thinking that we can “schedule” quality time with our kids don’t we?  That special moment when our … Read More

Daddy’s Role

By Danny Teo, Centre for Fathering Do you know your role as a father? Have you brought food to the table? That makes you a provider. Have you paid the bills? That makes you the accountant. Have you given your child his/her own room? That makes you a shelter. Have you punished your child for his/her wrongdoings? That makes you … Read More

Connecting through Reframing

By Wong Suen Kwong, Centre For Fathering In psychological terms, to “reframe” something is to look at it from a different perspective. Reframing is a way to turn what might be viewed as a negative scenario into a positive one. A very good example is the half-filled glass analogy. You can look at the glass and say “it is half-empty” … Read More

Working Together

By Wong Suen Kwong, Centre For Fathering Volunteering is a great way to teach your child about giving back to the community. Looking at the less fortunate people and your guidance of explaining to them why they need help will evoke a certain emotion and build a compassionate heart. It will also make your child more appreciative of what they … Read More

Connecting through Positive Presupposition

By Wong Suen Kwong, Centre for Fathering One of the best ways to connect with another person is by injecting a positive presupposition into a question or suggestion. This communication tool makes a conversation much more likely for your child to respond in a way that opens the way into understanding how your child thinks. To have a positive presupposition … Read More

Styles for Learning and Connecting

By Philip Chang, Centre For Fathering Child psychologists since Jean Piaget had demonstrated that babies as young as six-week old have the capability of deferred imitation – the mental capacity to store, remember actions or objects, and later, just simply by thinking, are able imitate or act on this knowledge. By the age of 14 months, the length of time … Read More