Calling time-out to “time-outs”

Time outs continue to be a powerful and effective means of motivating children’s compliance through about age 11 or 12. The point of the time-out is to give a child the time and space they need to calm themselves down, regain the ability to think clearly, and then come back to the situation and make better decisions. While on an … Read More

Blood is thicker than water

Written by Parcsen Loke “Blood is thicker than water” is a 15th Century proverb that implies that family relationships are always more important that friends. It was a social norm and everyone understood that, “If you ever need help, don’t ask your friends. Come home and ask us, your family. Blood runs thicker than water.”[1] But does this proverb still … Read More

6Cs to consider when buying a tech toy for your child

Written by Parcsen Loke Think back to the time you played at a playground. There were many different colours and shapes to stimulate your mind. The wide open spaces compelled you to run around and explore. There were ropes to climb and tunnels to crawl through, to test and train your strength and agility. You were probably not alone at … Read More

Play: More than Just Fun

Written by Parcsen Loke It has been said that “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.” Does it only mean that Jack is bored if he does not get to play, or much more? The eminent play scholar, Joe Frost, in his compelling book, “A History of Childhood Play and Play Environments” (1) tellingly shows that the … Read More

6 Predictors of Divorce

Written by Parcsen Loke In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman lists the six things that predict divorce. This ability to predict divorce is based in part on his analysis of 124 newlywed couples (married less than 6 months) who were observed a the “Love Lab” apartment at the University of Washington. The study involved observing … Read More

Book Review: Achieving Success Without Failing Your Family by Dr Paul Faulkner

A noted speaker, writer, and professor of marriage and family therapy, Dr Paul Faulkner interviewed 30 sets of parents to discover how they raised vibrant families while achieving success at work. At the same time, he researched what makes families strong. This book, Achieving Success Without Failing Your Family–How 30 successful families achieved family excellence (1995), brings together insights from his research … Read More

Use Adventure to Build Trust, Facilitate Communication and Teach Values

Centre for Fathering-Dads for Life’s (CFF-DFL) “Adventure Camp with Dad” (ACD) is an activity-based programme designed to build trust and communication between father and child, whilst nurturing a sense of adventure. Additionally, as an experiential activity that stretches participants and takes them outside their comfort zones, it offers fathers many opportunities to impart values and life skills to their children. Based on … Read More

Conversation with Our Patron, Speaker of Parliament Mr Tan Chuan-Jin

Our Patron, the Speaker of Parliament Mr Tan Chuan-Jin with our CEO, Bryan Tan As Centre for Fathering-Dads for Life enters a season of celebrating fathers from every generation, it is fitting that we would enter Parliament House to interview our Patron, Speaker of Parliament Mr Tan Chuan-Jin. After all, within these halls of power, Singapore’s founding fathers set the … Read More

Yusof and Asnawi: We’re a Team

When he is in Singapore, family time is precious for Mr Mohammad Yusof Suleiman (36), his wife Mdm Norinda Bachok (34), and their six children: Muhammad Asnawi (13), Nur Insyirah (12), 9-year-old twins Nur Huda and Nur Husna, and 3-year-old twins Nur Syakirah and Nur Syabirah. A Service Technician in the oil and gas industry for five years, Yusof’s work … Read More

Meet Yuen Chee Onn

Yuen Chee Onn is the Centre for Fathering-Dads for Life’s (CFF-DFL) Head of Engagement and Outreach.  He and his wife Eileen have a son, Daniel (28 years of age), two daughters Deborah (26), and Denise (25). For 20 years of his career life, he worked primarily in the banking industry.  At age 45, a heart attack and subsequent recovery would … Read More