By Alvina Chin When she first met him after he entered the world, she planted a light kiss on his cheek. Reality only hit on his first night home with us. She quickly changed her mind about him and said: “Send him back.” My then 2-year-old soon discovered that her little brother came with a […]
Category Archives: Journeying with Mums
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Jul
Jul
The pandemic has taught many of us a new lesson on adaptability & resilience as we went through a steep learning curve on living, working and even staying closely together with our family in the new norm. Both Jen and I agreed in unison that one of the most beautiful ‘rewards’ that have transpired from […]
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Apr
Apr
It is true that it would never be a smooth ride throughout the Marriage journey and facing some obstacles is definitely inevitable! Nevertheless, despite the challenges, most parts of marriage life is wholesome, blissful and fulfilling but there are some important elements that must be present in order for the marriage to be an everlasting […]
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Sep
Sep
With more women entering or re-entering the workforce it is changing Singapore’s family landscape with more dual-earner married couples. According to Singapore’s General Household Survey report, the proportion of dual-earner married couples increased from 47.15 in 2010 to 53.8% in 2015. These couples have an added dynamic to contend with: work-life conflict. In a study […]
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Aug
Aug
Emotional intelligence (or EQ) is recognised as one of the keys to success – more important than IQ, many say. As a result, books and workshops on this subject have been selling like hot cakes. But, developing emotional intelligence is not rocket science, really. We were all born with it. The problem is that it […]
Day-to-Day Fathering, Journeying with Mums
5 Ways Healing Your Emotional Neglect Makes You A Better Parent
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Aug
Aug
Few things can make a difference in your parenting as much as healing your emotional neglect. It’s true! To explain why we must first take a look at your own parents. Emotional neglect (CEN) happens when your parents, even if they loved and cared about you, failed to validate your emotions enough while they were […]
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May
May
“Jane, daddy will not be staying with us any more.” That’s simply saying “We’re getting a divorce!” For some time now, the home that was once a sanctuary, was noticeably becoming more like a war zone with no place of refuge. She is caught up in a cross-fire of scorn and animosity. Soon, though she […]
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May
May
Mums and dads read to their children, but they do it differently from one another. A study from Harvard University in the US maintains that children reap more benefit if they are read to by their fathers as mothers tended to ask ‘teacher-like’, factual questions, whereas the dads tend to favour more abstract questions which […]
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Apr
Apr
Our youngest child is nothing like the two before her. She has an independent streak but at the same time will not leave our sides. Literally. Whether we are walking, sitting or lying down in bed, she insists on being in between mummy and daddy. This went on till she was about three years old. […]
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Apr
Apr
News like this is a worry for most parents. “Will my child develop mental health problems? What can I do about it? Will they tell me if something is going on?” We know that it is impossible to protect our children from every single thing, especially as they become teenagers and seek greater independence. […]