We must Look and Listen

All of my three children were delivered at the same hospital and the same thing happened for every one of them. A nurse would take the new born away in a towel to clean it up immediately after the gynae had cut the umbilical cord. Soon after, she would announce: “Ten fingers. Ten toes.” The parents would then breathe a … Read More

Co-parenting After A Divorce

“Jane, daddy will not be staying with us any more.” That’s simply saying “We’re getting a divorce!” For some time now, the home that was once a sanctuary, was noticeably becoming more like a war zone with no place of refuge. She is caught up in a cross-fire of scorn and animosity. Soon, though she doesn’t know it yet, she … Read More

Hope for the busy father

Every father would want to be involved with their children’s lives and spend as much time with them as possible. But not every father is privileged to have a lot of time on their hands. Work demands and business trips can easily crowd out equally important activities such as family time. As a result, every opportunity busy fathers have to … Read More

More Than One Reason To Read To Your Child

Mums and dads read to their children, but they do it differently from one another. A study from Harvard University in the US maintains that children reap more benefit if they are read to by their fathers as mothers tended to ask ‘teacher-like’, factual questions, whereas the dads tend to favour more abstract questions which spark imaginative discussions. Lead researcher, … Read More

Burnout, What/Who’s to Blame?

Eighteen months into this journey of declaring war on burnout and I am still learning so much about this public enemy. Even though burnout seems to be such a straight-forward phenomenon, the causes of burnout are not as clear-cut. What is Burnout? Am I Burnt Out? First up, let us understand what burnout is. Burnout is simply our body’s physiological … Read More

How New Parents Can Maintain Intimacy With Each Other

Our youngest child is nothing like the two before her. She has an independent streak but at the same time will not leave our sides. Literally. Whether we are walking, sitting or lying down in bed, she insists on being in between mummy and daddy. This went on till she was about three years old. Sounds familiar? Do you feel … Read More

What Can Parents Do About Mental Health

Written by Charmaine Eng News like this is a worry for most parents. “Will my child develop mental health problems? What can I do about it? Will they tell me if something is going on?” We know that it is impossible to protect our children from every single thing, especially as they become teenagers and seek greater independence. But the … Read More

My Girl

Written by Parcsen Loke. My Girl T, the eldest of three children, is loaded with confidence and intelligence. Some would attribute these traits to Nature, saying that they are in her genes. I would like to think that the way she was nurtured enabled her to fulfil the potential coded in her genes. Research seem to agree with me. It … Read More

Benefits of Fathering

Written by Parcsen Loke “I’m going to be a father!” This announcement is, without fail, followed by congratulatory slaps on the back, high fives, and drinks all round. But the ecstasy is shortlived because very quickly the father-to-be realises that he has no idea what he needs to do. (Being able to get a girl pregnant might be proof of … Read More

Book Review: Parenting from the Inside Out

When we become parents, we bring with us issues from our own past that influence the way we parent our children. Experiences that are not fully processed may create unresolved and leftover issues that influence how we react to our children. These issues can easily get triggered in the parent-child relationship. When this happens our responses toward our children often … Read More