Ask Questions To Help Your Child Think

Being able to talk to your kids is important at any age, and is best established when children are young, open, and impressionable. As your child goes through changes in life, like going from Primary to Secondary school, it is likely that they will have less time to spend with the family. This makes the pockets of shared time all … Read More

What New Fathers Face In The First Six Months Postpartum

What do Singaporean fathers do during the first six months of their child’s arrival? “Pay the bills, lah, mostly. (Laugh) That’s the largest part I have to play,” says one participant of a study by Dr Shorey Shefaly and her team of researchers from the National University of Singapore. Another shared that bathing the infant is almost exclusively done by … Read More

A Memorable Weekend at Pulau Ubin

Group photo at Chek Jawa

Pulau Ubin is Singapore’s remaining hinterland, her last real kampong (‘village’ in Malay) and Singaporeans should rush to see it before it is pushed into oblivion by progress and development. That’s what a total of 24 fathers did with their children over two weekends in July. They had signed up for Centre For Fathering’s newest programme called Campout With Dad … Read More

Go Green

I have flown a kite only once in my entire life. Perhaps that was the only time my dad told me to “Go fly kite” (kidding). But from a young age, I’ve been attracted to scenic landscapes and nature. At first I thought that it was just a personal preference, but later learned that humans are biophilic: possessing an innate … Read More

Turn Towards Your Child’s Bids

”It’s so hard to get my 14-year old daughter to open up to me,” a father laments. “The only two times she speaks with me is to ask for her monthly allowance and to complain about how her elder siblings have been bullying her.” Sounds familiar? Obviously, this father isn’t aware that his daughter has been trying to connect with … Read More

We must Look and Listen

All of my three children were delivered at the same hospital and the same thing happened for every one of them. A nurse would take the new born away in a towel to clean it up immediately after the gynae had cut the umbilical cord. Soon after, she would announce: “Ten fingers. Ten toes.” The parents would then breathe a … Read More

Co-parenting After A Divorce

“Jane, daddy will not be staying with us any more.” That’s simply saying “We’re getting a divorce!” For some time now, the home that was once a sanctuary, was noticeably becoming more like a war zone with no place of refuge. She is caught up in a cross-fire of scorn and animosity. Soon, though she doesn’t know it yet, she … Read More

Hope for the busy father

Every father would want to be involved with their children’s lives and spend as much time with them as possible. But not every father is privileged to have a lot of time on their hands. Work demands and business trips can easily crowd out equally important activities such as family time. As a result, every opportunity busy fathers have to … Read More

More Than One Reason To Read To Your Child

Mums and dads read to their children, but they do it differently from one another. A study from Harvard University in the US maintains that children reap more benefit if they are read to by their fathers as mothers tended to ask ‘teacher-like’, factual questions, whereas the dads tend to favour more abstract questions which spark imaginative discussions. Lead researcher, … Read More

Burnout, What/Who’s to Blame?

Eighteen months into this journey of declaring war on burnout and I am still learning so much about this public enemy. Even though burnout seems to be such a straight-forward phenomenon, the causes of burnout are not as clear-cut. What is Burnout? Am I Burnt Out? First up, let us understand what burnout is. Burnout is simply our body’s physiological … Read More